By Dr. Virginia Phillips
Proverbs 23:7a (AMP) “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he…”
The words of the Wise Man brings forth Liberty.
I mentioned earlier how ill words bind the speaker and those spoken of. Change comes through changing your attitude, which brings liberty to the soul. Here are 10 attitudes to liberate yourself from criticism and judgment of others:
Love yourself because Jesus first loved you. We seek to obey the command “Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself” (Matthew 22:39). This is based on the fact that man should love himself. If you disrespect and dislike yourself, you cannot love your neighbor. In fact, you will likely blame your neighbor for what you see in yourself. The love spoken of in this commandment is not selfish or indulgent. Self-appreciation for who God created you to be is to regard your character, ideals, emotions and powers as developed in the image of God and God is love, the attribute you desire. Self-centeredness is not self-love, for love is kind and self-centeredness is not kind. Accepting yourself as a unique and loving person is essential to liberty and happiness.
We have problems when we try and be other than who we are by coveting or envying another’s station in life. We are to do the best with what we have. History speaks to us of great mean and women who did not allow their handicap paralyze their greatness.
Robert Louis Stevenson
Robert Louis Stevenson never had a well day in his life, but he refused to bow to a low spirit and left a legacy of some of the best literature ever written.
George Washington Carver never let his blackness and oppression stall his creativity. He became the inventor of hundreds of ways to use the peanut.
Be content in whatever state you are in – adjust yourself; do not be malcontent – “Oh, if I only had… if only I could win the lottery… if only I could live in another neighborhood.” We often find something to be critical of in others because we are ill content with ourselves. There is even jealousy over other’s gifts. We should agree with God’s placement and gifting that He has given us for the building up of the body, for we have been placed in the body as He wills and are fitly joined together.
Under Christ’s direction, who is our head, the whole body is fitted together perfectly. As each part does it’s own special work, it helps the other parts grow, so the whole body is healthy and growing and full of love – Ephesians 4:16 NIV. So let everything you say, even of yourself, be good and helpful not only to encourage yourself but to encourage others.
Think of others. “Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others” (Philippians 2:4).
Help others for their good rather than for the praise of men. “Take heed that ye do not your alms before men, to be seen of them; otherwise ye have no reward of your Father, which is in heaven” (Matthew 6:1).
Be long suffering and forbearing. “With all lowliness and meekness, with long-suffering, forbearing one another in love;” (Ephesians 4:2).
Be forgiving. “But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses” (Matthew 7:12).
Bless them that mistreat you. “Bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you and pray for them which despitefully use you and persecute you” (Matthew 5:44).
Refuse to spread gossip. “Thou shalt not go up and down as a talebearer among thy people:” (Leviticus 19:16).
Love. “If I have not love, it profiteth me nothing “ (1 Corinthians 13:3).
Sow freely of love, compassion and appreciation of others. “For whatsoever a man soweth, that he shall also reap” (Galatians 6:7).
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