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By Dr. Virginia Phillips

Ecclesiastes 9:17 (KJV) “The words of wise men are heard in quiet more than the cry of him that ruleth among fools.”

The words of the Wise Man brings forth Liberty.

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Each of us is happy or sad in this world because of who and what we are. If we are leading an unsatisfactory life it is because of the choices we make and our unwillingness to change. This series is written to those who have the faith to believe that what they speak comes from their inner man and affects them and those around them. The inner man can be peaceful and free of internal confusion, depression, anger and any other distraction that lead to an unhappy life. When the inner man is filled with light – no darkness will affect your tranquility.

The choices we make…

Words are the most powerful tools of change known to man. They can make or break people, nations and alter the way we live. No wonder James wrote so passionately of the tongue. In life we make many mistakes but… if any one (man) can control their tongue they can control themselves in every other way (James 3:2, NIV). The tongue is a small thing but it does enormous damage. Our tongue (speech) can ruin our and others’ lives. In fact, it can turn the entire course of your life into a blazing flame of destruction, for it can produce fire in an otherwise calm environment. No wonder there is such terror, hatred and misery in the world. The words that come from our mouths reflect the intents of our hearts. Words and actions begin in the heart. As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.

Watch what you say

“A good man out f the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that, which is good; and an evil man out of the treasure of his heart bringeth forth that, which is evil; for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh” (Luke 6:45). The words that we speak come from our inner man because whatever is in our heart determines what we say.

So often, I overhear conversations of staunch Christians after a church service speaking unkindly of another believer whose child cried too loud in church, of someone who sang off key or even of the pastor who preached too long, and they think nothing of it. In fact, these are unwise, unlovely remarks about another member of the body of Christ. They give no thought of the spiritual implications of such loose words. Why? For we have not rightfully discerned the body of Christ. We have become accustomed to the spirit of criticism – which causes a crack in the foundation of the house of God. What seems like a simple remark can destroy peace and when it hurts another person’s character, it demonstrates the lack of love that frees rather than devours. In Galatians 5:13-15 – “we have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another. But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another.”

How many times have you walked into a room filled with your fellow believers and immediately felt out of place as though all eyes were upon you? There might have been little groups together speaking to one another and you felt so uncomfortable you couldn’t join their conversations. I have, and it wasn’t because I was suspicious, it was because the conversations were not soothing to my spirit. We have lived in a carnal state, even as believers, so long – we speak poisonous words about others without recognizing the damage it does to our spirit and to the body of Christ, our brothers and sisters. The flesh and the spirit are constantly warring and our choices are never free from this conflict. But we must be aware that our words are to be constantly directed by the Holy Spirit and our intentions must be to build up not tear down others.

No other believer should feel uncomfortable in his/her family. We are all children of one God, having one faith and this means that around other family members we are to feel safe and secure. I am passionate about this because the body of Christ is sometimes lukewarm about the tongue. I believe this is so often the reason believers feels so badly about themselves when they should be most healthy spiritually and physically. What happens to a building when slowly but surely it’s foundation is chipped away day after day? This is what happens when we speak ill of one another. Our building (the body of Christ) slowly becomes weaker and weaker because our spirit man is being defiled. James 3:6, “And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity; so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature, and it is set on fire of hell.”


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